Once-In-A-Lifetime Opportunities Only Happen Three or Four Times

I had the good fortune to have dinner with some old friends the other night. All in all, this does not sound like a major accomplishment, but when your inner circle consists of in-demand artists, investment bankers and other self-determined powerhouse business types, time becomes a scarce commodity. Consequently, the time you do get to spend together becomes all the more precious and the conversations tend to be a lot more to the point just the way I like it.

One rather attractive 35-plus blonde (let’s call her Jesse) told me a story about her only single regret. She had been quasi-engaged to a man when she was 19. She worked hard at her craft while he seemed to have inordinate amounts of spare time. She never really stressed over money but she hustled to pay the bills. On the other hand, he seemed that he couldn’t have cared less about cash flow. The topic of finances never even came up between them in the course of general conversation.

About two years into the relationship her boyfriend’s father bought him and his two brothers, red, white and blue Mercedes (for real). She thought it was a little eccentric at the time but the mind of a 19 year-old blonde artist is a wonderful thing. She hadn’t accumulated enough life experience to realize that the very man she was already dating, a good-looking guy who was madly in love with her I might add, was actually a VERY well-off lad who could provide her with a storybook existence without really asking for anything in return except loyalty, appreciation and maybe, just maybe, what poets and Hallmark executives refer to as love.

You Don’t Know What You Got Until It’s Gone

Jesse and her young suitor dated for about two years but she figured that if she didn’t break up with him right then and there she would never break up with him (sound logic when you’re 19). In her mind, guys with fathers who doled out Mercedes for birthday presents roamed the streets like feral pack animals. If she ever wanted to circle back around and find another one just like him all she had to do was look up from her canvas and there would be at least two or three of them standing in line like old women waiting at a deli counter.

She was wrong.

More than two decades of dead-end dating ensued and just three years ago she discovered accidentally that her ex-boyfriend was one of the wealthiest men in the northeast. We’re not going to name his home state or get into any more detail about him aside from the fact that he actually made the Forbes’s list.

Jesse leads a rich and meaningful existence but not a single day goes by when she doesn’t think about what might have been. She imagines that posh gallery in SOHO packed with her originals, New York’s elite climbing over one another like hungry dogs, clawing at other’s backs for the opportunity to buy a piece of her artwork regardless of the price. Her mind replays scenarios of her setting up her easel somewhere in Nice or Marseille, overlooking the water and painting from the perspective of a very, very wealthy woman.

This is not to say that her art is any less desirable, or that she is any less desirable, for that matter. It’s just that timing is more important than most people realize.

Without the exposure that can be generated by having a disgustingly wealthy husband, her paintings sell for about $5,000 to $10,000 apiece as opposed to $500,000 to $1,000,000 a piece. That’s the most amazing thing about art, collectors actually buy the artist.

A part of her believes that she’s missed the boat, but nothing could be further from the truth. Jesse is still Grade A Sugar Baby material, and there are thousands of wealthy Sugar Daddies out there who would crawl through broken glass to set her up with that dream gallery or buy her very own set of red, white, and blue Mercedes.

The moral to the story is that it is never too late to find the Sugar Daddy of your dreams. The key is making your life experience work for you, not against you. Replace regret with ambition.

When the universe unfolds again and Jesse is afforded with yet another opportunity to settle down with another fabulously wealthy Sugar Daddy she’ll seal the deal this time.

In closing, buy her artwork while it is relatively cheap. Once she is the toast of Manhattan you’ll have to stand in line just like everyone else.

If you don’t want to get even more depressed about your current economic bog, then don’t watch the evening news or pick up a paper. Doom, gloom, despair, and a bunch of other droll adjectives prevail in this economy, but rest assured Baby that help is just around the corner.

If you’re young, female (or male) and having trouble paying for even the bare essentials of life, then it’s time to retool your thinking. Since the haves seem to keep getting richer while the have not’s continue getting broker (if that’s actually possible) get ready to market your strongest asset, your youth.

Whether you believe it or not, there are tens of thousands of wealthy men (and a few well-to-do women) who are on standby right now just begging for the opportunity to come to your rescue. But in order to be saved it is essential to abandon your stereotypical beliefs about Sugar Daddies (and Sugar Mommies) before going any further.

If you’re concerned about being branded a sellout then comfort yourself with the knowledge that NOBODY gets anywhere in life without a little help from his or her fellow man (or fellow benefactor). The only difference is that in the age of the Internet you don’t have to send smoke signals or sit around helplessly waiting for the cavalry to arrive.

Getting out of your economic slump is as easy as posting a Sugar Baby personal profile.

If you have any reservations or preconceived notions about Sugar Daddy Dating it is time to put them aside; if not for yourself, then for the good of the national economy itself.

Your country needs you to step up as a Sugar Baby, and here’s why.

1. When the Bills are Paid Plans Get Made

How can you possibly develop to your fullest potential if you’re spending 60 hours a week just trying to pay the bills? You can’t – it’s a rhetorical question.

Sugar Daddies can free up your time so you can finish that master’s degree, start a dream business or develop a cure for cancer or baldness. We have no way of knowing if the next Marie Curie or Jenna Jameson is waiting tables right now instead of getting down to some real earth-shattering innovations. The thought that the next breakthrough in deep space travel or cold fusion is currently unrealized because the hostess at Scores doesn’t have the time to attend MIT is completely unconscionable.

With a little help from a benevolent Sugar Daddy that cocktail waitress could be splitting the atom in no time (or at least finishing NYU film school). Everyone benefits.

2. Equity Replaces Debt

Like most Americans Sugar Babies are top-heavy with debt. Credit cards, car loans, student loans, and Victoria’s Secrets store cards don’t just compromise Sugar Baby’s financial well being; these debts hurt all of us because they create economic drag.

If Sugar Baby doesn’t get her nails done at the salon, the salon owner can’t pay the rent, the landlord can’t pay his mortgage, the bank is forced to foreclose, the real estate market is depressed even further and the recession trudges forth.

However, what is an insurmountable obstacle to Sugar Baby and a threat to global economic stability is just a minor detail for an established Sugar Daddy. All he has to do is rollover with the spare change in the ashtray of his Mercedes and VOILA, problem solved.

With Sugar Baby elevated financially to “par” her options improve dramatically. She can move ahead and take advantage of employment opportunities that were previously unrealistic. If just one Sugar Baby is afforded the opportunity to start her dream business then the GNP upticks. Keep in mind that today’s start-up ventures are the Fortune 500 companies of tomorrow. Investing in Sugar Babies is sort of like speculating in penny stocks or currency futures, sort of.

3. Give Sugar Baby a Fish, She Eats for a Day. Teach a Sugar Baby to Fish. . .

Sugar Daddies possess valuable business connections. They can open doors for Sugar Baby that she may not have even known existed. Sure he’s going to spot her some well-needed cash, but a lot of determined Sugar Babies get off on making their own money.

Sugar Daddy can not only help Sugar Baby land a job, but he can be an invaluable resource in helping Sugar Baby get high-paying clients if she is an artist or decorator, or running a wide variety of other high-end service businesses.

Whether Sugar Baby goes on to become the hottest caterer in Manhattan or the most sought after wedding planner in the Hamptons, she’ll have her Sugar Daddy to thank for it. This is not to say that Sugar Baby can’t make it on her own; success is inevitable to those with focus and determination. But Sugar Daddy can definitely speed things up a bit; helping the cream rise to the top where it rightfully belongs.

4. Sugar Daddy’s Cash Infusion Stimulates All Economic Sectors

With Sugar Baby back on the map financially, she is free to spend. While some people may view buying expensive shoes, clothes, jewelry and spa treatments as frivolous and irresponsible, the reality is that Sugar Baby’s spending sets off a chain reaction that stimulates the economy as a whole.

Cash starved businesses thrive on spontaneous spenders and the money they receive trickles down to employees, vendors, landlords and the like. Those entities, in turn, have more money to spend on essentials as well as non-essentials. It is virtually impossible to calculate the benefit generated by some free-wheeling Sugar Baby spending.

Ladies, if you were raised to believe that good girls don’t date men for money, you were obviously raised by the Amish. If you learned in school that that by studying and working hard you could accomplish anything, the textbooks you read were probably printed in the 1950’s. You’ve been duped.

In this economy all bets are OFF. You owe it to yourself, and those maybe not quite as hot as you, to get out there and make Sugar Daddy dating work for you. Your country depends on it.

Can’t we all just get along?

Sounds simple enough, but the fact of the matter is that even in modern times interracial dating is still not as socially accepted as it should be. This is 2010, not 1910, but a wealthy white man dating a woman of color still turns a head or two.

The solution is dilution; the more something occurs the more mundane it becomes. Eventually, no one could care less.

The problem to the solution is accessibility. It’s difficult to shatter the color barrier when there are so very few places where free-thinking people of various ethnicities can mingle.

Brown Sugar Saves Humanity

Statistically, one in five Sugar Babies are women of color. There are drop-dead gorgeous African American princesses, Native American honeys, breathtaking Asian delights, and a multitude of other willing goddesses from virtually every other ethnic background. Sugar Daddy dating is nothing short of a smorgasbord of racial opportunity.

It is 1000% easier to “color outside the lines” with the assistance of a website like WealthSeeksBeauty.com. If a white businessman from Idaho comes across a Sugar Baby personal ad that reads “Nubian Princess Seeks Daddy for Fun and Games,” it becomes extremely difficult for him not to stop and explore the opportunity. He’s going to seriously consider something that he may have previously dismissed as an unattainable fantasy.

When a woman of color makes the first move, putting herself out there and letting Sugar Daddies know that she is seeking a special benefactor, she generally makes it a point to spell out that race is not an issue. This is the exact encouragement that Sugar Daddy needs to spark up a conversation with her online and to roll the dice on what comes next.

If that same man were to approach that very same woman in a nightclub, it is highly unlikely that the first words out of her mouth, assuming she would speak to him at all, would be “race is not an issue.” That’s the beauty of Sugar Daddy dating sites; communication is accelerated and the chips are on the table.

The Allure of the Exotic

Every healthy red-blooded man has fantasized at least once, or most likely a whole bunch of times, about having a hot sexual encounter with a woman from a different ethnic background. Sexual curiosity is just human nature, but after casually dabbling some men discover that a woman of color is actually “their type.”

For instance, Robert De Niro realized early on that African American women were the only way to go as far as his romantic life is concerned. Woody Harrelson and Nicholas Cage are both married to beautiful Asian women. Romance knows no ethnicity, and neither do Sugar Daddy arrangements.

Our advice? Do what comes natural but be bold, go where not enough men have gone before but do it for the right reasons.

Brown Sugar Socially Legitimizes Sugar Daddy Arrangements

Ironically, Brown Sugar takes one of the most controversial forms of adult dating and lends it social credibility. After all, anything that bridges the gap between races and fosters a greater mutual understanding amongst people in general cannot be condemned. Brown Sugar can accomplish more than any politician, public awareness program, racial tolerance activist or Benetton ad combined.

In ten words or less, dating Brown Sugar serves the greater good. So, by sheer logic, Sugar Daddy dating is nothing short of a higher calling. At least that’s what we think.

WealthSeeksBeauty.com Features the Most Brown Sugar

We at WealthSeeksBeauty.com are proud of the fact that we feature more Brown Sugar than any other Sugar Daddy dating site. These Sugar Babies are as alluring as they are exotic, and they all espouse the message of tolerance, passion and commonality.

Our precious ambassadors of love are waiting right now, ready to set aside hundreds of years of oppression and racial stereotyping in order to make the world a better place, and to show some lucky Sugar Daddies a good time in the process.

Little girls don’t run around playing “Date a Sugar Daddy.” Their games have a tendency to revolve around pretend relationships with Princes and astronauts. But in reality Princes are rather hard to come by and astronauts don’t pull down that much loot.

Once little girls mature into young women they realize that although money doesn’t bring happiness it definitely makes life easier. Some may initially hesitate when it comes to dating an “older” guy, but rich 50 is today’s new 35 and let’s face it, mature guys are the ones with all the cash.
 
Aside from the obvious financial benefit of dating a Sugar Daddy, there are many other very compelling reasons as to why this is the best dating option for women who want to keep their options open while figuring out what comes next.
 
Ignore what your gal pals have to say about posting a Sugar Baby classified, and certainly don’t listen to your Mom. Just make your own decisions and do what is best for you. There is nothing wrong with looking out for #1. Throw in the fact that you’ll most likely be physically and emotionally attracted to your Sugar Daddy and there’s no decision to make at all; it’s been made for you.
 
Men are held to a variety of standards. They are judged by their appearance, personality, career, and social standing, so why shouldn’t financial status be an equally accepted qualifier?
 
If you’ve had a few dead-end relationships and feel like you have nothing to show for them, or if someone is giving you grief over the fact that that you’re looking for a guy who can actually pay his own way, just whip out this article and beat them with it.
 
You just can’t argue with the following logic.
 

1. Sugar Daddies have seen it all, and they are not easily dismayed by a Sugar Baby with a skinned knee so to speak. While a man in his 20’s would most likely crawl out the bathroom window upon discovering his Sugar Baby is a single mother, Sugar Daddies are more apt to step up to the plate and lend some support, at least financially. Sugar Daddies realize that everyone has a past, and a present, and they Sugar Babies “as is” without the expectation of change.
2. Sugar Daddies can afford the best hotels, restaurants, clothes, jewelry and basically all of the finer things in life. They buy quality and can tell an expensive bottle of Beaujolais from a cheap Merlot. They’re cultured and have the dollars to turn an average night into an unforgettable evening.
3. Sugar Daddies have more life experience and know how a Sugar Baby deserves to be treated. They are refined, possess more poise and know that chivalry is not dead, it is just lacking in most guys younger than 30. Sugar Daddies are also more adept at blending in at expensive restaurants, exclusive night spots and other select social situations.
4. Sugar Daddies are far more romantic than the average Joe because he gets pleasure from seeing Sugar Baby’s face light up with joy and surprise. He not only knows what romance is but he has the means to execute whatever romantic plan he comes up with. When was the last time your boyfriend flew you from NYC to Nantucket via helicopter just for the clam chowder?
5. A man in his 50’s understands that a Sugar Baby requires security from the moment they meet. The fact is that Sugar Babies feel safer dating an older gentleman because he is indeed a quasi-father figure in addition to being a lover and a confidant. Sugar Daddies clearly understand that Sugar Babies need to be handled with care and that they have some trepidation when the arrangement is new. Sugar Daddies are patient, kind and understanding and usually take every possible measure to ensure that Sugar Baby feels safe during the “getting to know you” process.
6. Sugar Daddies know that in order to make you happy they have to take an interest in your goals and aspirations. In most cases they’ll offer a little coaching to help you get where you need to go. Sugar Daddies love nothing more than being able to help out a damsel in distress. Your Sugar Daddy can be your greatest mentor.
7. As far as sex is concerned, the Sugar Daddy knows his way around the block a lot better than some 20-something college guy. Don’t let his age fool you, the mature Sugar Daddy knows how to curl your toes in bed every time while his younger, financially challenged counterpart is throwing darts at a board. Sugar Daddy knows that pleasing a woman in bed is an art form, and he’s worked very hard to perfect his craft.
8. Sugar Daddies have less distractions and are far more “in the moment” than average guys. They’re financially stable, more self-assured and have been around long enough to know what they want. You will rarely if ever catch Sugar Daddy looking at another woman while he is entertaining you. You have his full attention because he is a true gentleman. Your looks got you in the door, but he respects you as a person as well.
9. Sugar Daddies bring consistency to the table. When they make plans or promises, they keep them. In a world full of people who will most likely leave you hanging at one time or another, Sugar Daddy delivers ten times out of ten. He is your friend, benefactor, emotional rock, and lover.

A piece of advice to all Sugar Babies; think incisively and act decisively. Cancel that next nowhere date and post your Sugar Baby classified NOW.

Live a little, live a lot. The choice is yours.

Holy matrimony is a beautiful thing, but statistically most men and women go outside the relationship at least once for one reason or another (sex or sex). In most cases, however, they return to their spouse, having gotten the last of the wild oats out of their systems.

In more innocent times it was referred to as the “Seven-Year Itch” but these days it’s more like a persistent tickle. We’re all bombarded by the media with images of perfect people with perfect bodies enticing us to have perfect sex. It’s impossible to escape the barrage of sexual material that assaults our senses via television, magazines, billboards and of course, the 800-pound gorilla of them all, the Internet.

These days it’s a mystery how anyone doesn’t step out to sample the goods at least once in their relationship.

By stepping out and hooking up with a stranger the stepper is flooded with old emotions and stimuli they forgot even existed. There’s newly rekindled excitement, anticipation, and the flood of endorphins making it even more impossible to think straight. But then there is a resurgence of other emotions long since extinguished by married life; disappointment, disenchantment, disillusionment and a lot of other dis’s that were also forgotten about.

In this respect, since people are hard wired to stray from time to time, is it fair, or even remotely rational to put an entire marriage and family asunder over something that’s nothing more than a one-time fling? Of course not. Anyone who disagrees is lying, unrealistic or outright delusional.

Sugar Daddy dating delivers yet again. If the impulse to wander is there and it becomes impossible to fight one’s own biology, it only makes sense to take every possible precaution and do it like a professional as opposed to swinging wildly like a hormonal maniac. Professionals live to see another day, maniacs get ostracized.

The Sugar Daddy dating scene is packed with Sugar Babies who understand the fact that Daddy is probably married, but that’s OK with them nonetheless. If the arrangement works out, great, if not, everyone goes back to their respective corners and gets a second chance to reevaluate their long-term relationships. No harm, no foul.

Sugar Babies, especially ones who have been in the game for a little while, have pretty much seen it all. They are compassionate, understanding, well-versed in social etiquette and tread lightly when it comes to Sugar Daddy’s marital status. They know that there are no guarantees in terms of the longevity of the arrangement, but instead they focus on making every minute count. Professional Sugar Babies live for today and help Sugar Daddy do the same.

Sugar Daddy dating eliminates wild card variables and provides a safe way for men and women alike to stick their toe in the water without getting swept away by the current. Think of it as going on safari with a professional guide and tracker by your side as opposed to blindly trudging off into the jungle alone.

The beauty of Sugar Daddy dating is that one can be completely honest and even go so far as telling prospective Sugar Babies that “This is the first time I’ve done this so let’s take it one day at a time.”

If the arrangement is befitting to both Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby, then have at it. If it turns out that the grass isn’t greener then quite possibly the original grass is the one for the home team to stick with.

Worst case scenario is that Sugar Daddy (or Sugar Baby) walks away with a newfound appreciation for their original mate (or playmate).

What began as a velveteen dream has become a prickly cactus. Sugar Daddy is not financially coming through like he should, or quite possibly Sugar Baby is starting to act more like a spoiled girlfriend than a playmate.

In Sugar terminology this is referred to as the “dip.” The question is whether to fire them or fire them up. This is a highly personal decision and no one can tell you what to do, but we’ll try anyway.

If the dip is going to occur, you’ll see it about 120 days into the arrangement (give or take). Telltale signs include, but are not limited to; lack of social spontaneity, plans being broken at the last minute, lame excuses for not seeing you, a generally distant demeanor, a misplaced creative spark, decline in quality of appearance, decline in party time, decline in frequency or intensity of sex, and decline in cash flow. The basic rule of thumb is that once the word “decline” rears its ugly head, you’re into the dip.

Believe it or not, you’ve got more options in this situation than you may think.

Widen the Rotation

Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby may not be a total write-off at this point. After all, the definition of a “dip” is something that declines but that may still rally back to its previous, or even higher, level.

Set your existing Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby into a wider rotation and incorporate some new blood. Dips are usually caused by overexposure; two people spending too much time with each other. Familiarity breeds contempt. Odds are if you’re into a dip you’re probably doing a one-on-one with Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby and it’s time to invite some new players to the party.

By recruiting new Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies into the mix you’re taking the pressure off of any single person to satisfy your needs, whether they are financial, sexual, social or any combination thereof. New players mean new forms of excitement, new music, new nightspots, new experiences, new entertainment, and the entire Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby dynamic has been effectively revitalized.

After a few months you may come to realize that your original Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby is looking better than they used to (maybe the grass wasn’t greener), or maybe they’re just making more of an effort once they’ve realized you’re a hot commodity. Either way, you just beat the dip.

Make a Clean Break

Once again, total judgment call on your part.

Men and women get into Sugar Daddy arrangements to avoid the humdrum complications of ordinary dating scenarios. If you’re rocking the NSA attitude and suddenly you find yourself mired in boredom and malaise, congratulations, you now have a boyfriend or girlfriend and a stale one at that. The entire Sugar lifestyle has just been undermined; time to cut and run.

Use this situation as a learning experience. Was the chemistry lacking to begin with or did it die a slow and agonizingly painful death over a period of time? Change your tactics to make sure this doesn’t happen again. There’s no reason for it.

Sugar Daddy dating is about having fun, red hot sex, five-star restaurants, travel, entertainment and no hassles. It’s a sybaritic (luxurious) lifestyle so don’t weigh it down with and compromise or complacency.

The minute you’re not totally captivated about hooking up with your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby, step back, gain some perspective, and remember what you posted in your profile to begin with.

The only dip you should accept is the one you take in the hot tub at the ski lodge in Aspen.

It’s been scientifically proven that up to 93% of communication is non-verbal and based on body cues. This being as it may, you had better make that remaining 7% count.

Sugar Daddy incentivizing is based on subtleties. Don’t use a hammer when a chopstick will do.

It’s about planting seeds and letting Sugar Daddy think that your ideas are actually his. This IS NOT mental manipulation because if Sugar Daddy knew what you really wanted he would get it for you. But if he’s not the one coming up with the million dollar ideas and you are, you run the risk of bruising his ego.

In essence, you’re just providing indirect guidance and saving all parties involved a great deal of hassle by eliminating guesswork. It’s your duty as a Sugar Baby to be indiscernibly persuasive.

Sugar Baby Needs a New Pair of Shoes

Basics first; shoes are a common denominator amongst all respectable Sugar Babies, and they don’t grow on trees or get delivered by the shoe fairy. They come from very expensive stores.

The next time you’re on a date, outing, etc., with Sugar Daddy and he asks you what you’d like to do, tell him you don’t know and then reach down to adjust one of your shoes. Casually mention that you just paid top dollar for your new kicks and that they are dreadful; you never imagined a pair of shoes could be so painful.

Voila! Daddy offers to take you shoe shopping so that your precious tootsies will never know another minute of sorrow. You act surprised and compliment him on how very thoughtful he is.

Your Chariot Awaits

A car can in no way be considered a luxury item; it’s an essential. The only question is whether you are going to drive a Kia Spectra or a BMW. Having never driven a Kia Spectra but having owned a BMW my opinion may be biased, then again I’ve never heard anyone bragging about their new Kia.

This one is simpler than you may initially believe. The basic mindset when going in for a major upgrade is that if you make it a big deal, then it becomes a big deal. Treat it like a non-issue and the whole thing is just two people having a conversation.

The new car strategy is actually the way I saw my friend Kelly land a new car from her Sugar Daddy. She simply told him that she hated her car and that she was sure he wouldn’t mind if she drove his. He of course obliged and then after a few times he grew tired of loaning her his ride so he ponied up and leased her one of her own.

They lived happily ever after, for the next six months.

Travel Like a Rockstar

Flying coach is for traveling salesmen. Sugar Babies fly business class or first class at the very least.

Let your Sugar Daddy know how much value you place on your relationship with your family and how it saddens you that you can’t visit your parents (aunt, grandparents, step sister in Laguna) more often because airline travel is such a complete drag. Elaborate how the last time you flew you got stuck between some creepy guy with a head cold and a screaming child.

No way is Sugar Daddy going to allow his princess to be soiled in this manner. It is GUARANTEED he’ll step up and offer to pay your way the next time you need to fly. Once again, the whole thing was his idea, not yours.

With great power comes great responsibility, so save the Jedi mind tricks for when you really need them and don’t abuse the skill set. In the unlikely event you find yourself wrestling with your conscience and think you’re becoming a manipulator, rest assured, you are not. You are simply doing the humane thing by letting Sugar Daddy know what you need and when you need it without expecting him to be a mind reader.

It doesn’t matter how you convey your message just as long as you get your point across. The rest is just semantics.

This question is a little tricky since it’s tough to attach any hard science to it. As far as statistical and empirical data is concerned, well, there is none. However, there is one basic rule of thumb that is universal; the more that Sugar Baby is into Sugar Daddy the less likely she is to say anything to her friends to jeopardize the arrangement.

Leslie is an experienced Sugar Baby who hails from Dallas. The men she sees are prominent and her role as a Sugar Baby is never really disclosed. In other words, no one has any idea that the men she sees provide her with financial assistance. She is pretty, unassuming and very discreet. She knows a good thing when she sees it and she prefers long-term arrangements over shorter, more sporadic ones.

“The Dallas dinner crowd is a very tight group for such a big city,” Leslie said. “Everyone knows everybody and gossip spreads like brushfire. I never, under any circumstances, reveal intimate details about my relationships to anyone. My closest girlfriends are even left out. Gossip is a very destructive habit and I don’t think people realize the damage they are doing when they make casual comments about people they don’t really know, especially when it comes to sex.”

Leslie represents the abundantly cautious full-time Sugar Baby. She owns her own home, has a thriving business and makes her own hours. She also has a daughter in private school. All the more reason to keep things very low key.

Kimmy (AKA Princess) is a bit more flamboyant. She’s younger than Leslie, plays it a little more from the hip, and isn’t really interested in long-term arrangements. She rarely sees a Sugar Daddy for longer than four or five months and even then, the encounters are sporadic and spontaneous. She never uses her real name, has a second cell phone for when Daddy calls, and never brings anyone back to her place.

“I talk about sex with my girlfriends all of the time,” Kimmy confided. “I don’t name names or if I do I’ll make one up, but if I am seeing a guy and it turns out that he’s uncircumcised, someone is probably going to hear about it. If everyone else is talking about some guy they’re sleeping with I can’t just sit there and be left out of the conversation. I’m 24-years old, what else are we supposed to talk about?

So far, the theory is intact. Leslie highly values her arrangements and says nothing about sex. Kimmy is less concerned with any particular Sugar Daddy so her sex life is an open book, even though she is cautious and tries not to mention names. It should also be noted that Kimmy does not travel in the same social circles as the Sugar Daddies she sees so there is little, if any, chance of rogue information making it back to an unintended recipient.

Since details about who is having sex with who can create serious blowback, Sugar Daddies may want to set the pace from the jump as far as sexual anonymity is concerned. If Sugar Daddy is seeing a Sugar Baby 20 years his junior, she may not even realize that a few poorly chosen words to a casual acquaintance can escalate into an all out ground war.

The good news is that our theory seems to hold water, so the more Sugar Baby is into Sugar Daddy, the less inclined she’ll be to broadcast his favorite sexual position.

A woman with extraordinary beauty is more than enough for the normal man; but the Sugar Daddy is far from average. He craves adventure, admiration, accomplishment (the three A’s), and a whole bunch of other stuff in order to keep his instincts razor sharp and his appetites satisfied.

He needs a Sugar Baby (Sugar Babies) who can challenge his intellect, toss him a full clip when he’s out of ammo and it’s raining bullets, to help him hotwire a car if the situation necessitates, and one who can keep her Sugar Daddy’s secrets to herself whether they are together or have gone their separate ways.

Sure, I know what you’re thinking, “Why would I ever need to hotwire a car?” The point is that you’ll never know exactly the reason until it presents itself. And won’t you just feel ridiculous if your Sugar Baby falls short at a critical moment?

The following are the Top Five Cinema Sugar Babies who can handle anything. Any red-blooded Sugar Daddy would spend his bottom dollar to call one (or all) of them his own. Although they are definitely long on skills, these Sugar Babies are still a little short on cash.

Angelina Jolie as Fox, Wanted

A.J. in her natural form is the pinnacle of Sugar Daddy desire, but adorn her in exotic tattoos and put a custom-made .45 in her hand and she becomes the ultimate Sugar Baby. She’s got the face, the body and the ability to think on her feet. She can also shoot around corners which is an added benefit. Although lethal as a Black Mamba, Fox has all of the qualities that make her a top shelf Sugar Baby; sexuality, loyalty, style and whit.

Uma Thurman, Beatrix Kiddo, Kill Bill

There is just something about a hot female who can handle a Hattori Hanzo sword. Uma was Bill’s ultimate Sugar Baby, so much so that he was willing to scour the earth to get her back. Bill was the mature, worldly and experienced benefactor to the younger, impressionable Uma and the arrangement indeed worked for a while. Although things headed south after Bill tried to have her killed five times over, the Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby bond is not easily broken. Uma’s beauty, grace, style and ability to get out of tight places qualify her as one of the top five fantasy Sugar Babies.

Asia Argento, Yelena, XXX

We can already see a theme developing here; exceptional Sugar Babies are just a little dangerous, maybe more than a little actually. Yelena (Asia) is the Russian spy left out in the cold (extra points for the accent). She is dark, elusive, mysterious and unpredictable. She also has a soft side as inviting as a hot cappuccino on a cold winter day. Asia’s hot temper is only rivaled by her hot everything else. Although some less daring Sugar Daddies may consider her more than they can handle, for the powerful and courageous benefactor, Asia qualifies as Sugar Baby reserva.

Gillian Anderson, Agent Dana Scully, The X Files

Brainy Sugar Babies have their own special magnetism. Scully wasn’t just the relentless federal agent in search of the truth, she was the object of desire for every Internet geek between 1993 and 2002. Well a lot of those reclusive techies have grown up and done pretty well for themselves by becoming millionaires during the tech boom. They now have the money to indulge themselves as well as the Sugar Baby of their choice; which leads us to the ongoing fascination with Agent Scully. She’s the only fantasy Sugar Baby I can think of who looks hot in a blue blazer and slacks.

Halle Berry, Jinx Johnson, Die Another Day

It would be irresponsible to round out the Top Five without including one Bond girl. Jinx does for orange bikinis what wasabi does for sushi rolls. Halle as Jinx makes the Top Five for the obvious reasons, but she also possesses more esoteric qualities that cause rich Sugar Daddies to spend, spend, spend. She’s got taste, style, sensuality and an international flair that qualify her as a Sugar Baby ambassador. If Jinx were penniless and stranded on a tropical island, she’d have a condo with a view by nightfall and a rich Sugar Daddy paying her bills by the next morning.

The concept of married men maintaining a relationship with women outside of their marriage is so prevalent throughout history and society that the woman on the side has become known by dozens of different names; mistress and Sugar Baby currently being the preferred terms.

Ironically, the word mistress has two very distinct definitions;

1. A woman who has a continuing sexual relationship with a usually married man who is not her husband and from whom she generally receives material support.
2. A woman in a position of authority, control, or ownership, as the head of a household: “Thirteen years had seen her mistress of Kellynch Hall” (Jane Austen).

Think about it, a woman having sex with a married man while receiving his financial support is synonymous with a woman in a position of authority, control or ownership. History tells us that these two types of mistresses constitute two sides of the very same coin.

Since I’ve never known anyone to have a mistress, but more than a few of my associates maintain Sugar Babies, it’s safe to assume that the latter term has replaced the former. Yet even though the name has changed, the Sugar Baby is as much in a position of power as the mistress as was.

A married man may cheat on his wife, but he will rarely, if ever, cheat on his Sugar Baby. In this respect, the Sugar Baby maintains a position of control. Reason being is that Sugar Daddy knows that Sugar Baby can do what she wants, when she wants to, without asking permission.

If she is charming and beautiful enough to attract him, it stands to reason that there are dozens of rich Sugar Daddies circling nearby waiting to win her favors. The more luscious the Sugar Baby, the more options she has.

It is the sheer design of the Sugar Baby arrangement that empowers the Sugar Baby with irrefutable independence. There is no ring on her finger, she’s taken no vows, and there are no legal ramifications if she exits the arrangement. She has total freewill.

The Sugar Daddy is compelled, not obliged, to keep Sugar Baby content. With this type of motivation as his compass, Sugar Daddy is more innovative in terms of how he keeps his Sugar Baby happy. He’s quick to praise, slow to admonish, and he is generally on his best, most romantic behavior at all times.

The Sugar Baby, inversely, is free to simply be herself. She is whimsical, dynamic, fascinating and of course beautiful. Whether she realizes it or not, she dictates the terms of the arrangement either overtly or inadvertently.

This form of “role reversal” is the rule, not the exception. The concept of the dependant, insecure Sugar Baby holds no more credence than does the belief that alien visitors built Stonehenge.

The modern Sugar Baby carries with her the mistress legacy wherever she goes. She is the embodiment of Cleopatra, Catherine the Great, and Marilyn Monroe, all rolled into one. She is the great motivator behind many powerful men including emperors, kings generals and presidents.

Without the Sugar Baby’s allure of independence, man would not have invented the internal combustion engine, put a man on the moon and of course, developed the Internet to what it is today.

So the next time you see a hot Sugar Baby sitting next to her older, distinguished and of course rich Sugar Daddy in his SL 500, just remember that without her we’d all still be riding horseback.