Myths, urban legends and politics all make for great talk at cocktails parties. Just don’t take any of them too seriously.

Sugar Daddy dating has put more women through college than the GI Bill, it’s given retired businessmen a reason to keep going to the gym, and it’s one of the few sectors of the economy that seems to be recession-proof.

Female Intuition Pays For Her Tuition

But like any great concept there are bound to be naysayers. Some people just don’t get it and instead of keeping an open mind they find it more satisfying to perpetuate negative stereotypes and misinformation.

These are the same people that told us if you threw a penny off of the Empire State Building it would kill someone and that if the woman stayed on top during sex she couldn’t get pregnant.

Here are a few myths and misunderstandings about Sugar Daddy dating that need to be addressed.

Sugar Daddy Dating is Just Veiled Prostitution

This is one is my favorites because it’s the craziest. Comparing the two is like claiming that watching porn is committing adultery.

Sugar Daddy dating is just that, a form of dating. Whether it’s referred to as an arrangement or an affair, Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies are doing a lot more together than just having sex. Sure there is sex, a lot of it, but there is just as much partying, hanging out, shopping and traveling.

Last time I checked men didn’t take prostitutes on vacation to Aspen, they didn’t make their car payments for them and they certainly didn’t show them off to their friends.

Sugar Babies Are Gold Diggers and Opportunists

This myth was created by actual gold diggers and opportunists. Sugar Babies are generally young women with a strong sense of self-worth who like to party. Unlike their deceptive counterparts, Saccharin Babies, Sugar Babies put their cards on the table when they meet a Sugar Daddy and spell out exactly what they need in order to make the arrangement work.

Inversely, the Saccharin Baby will hide her intentions and string a guy along with a lot of empty promises. She never comes out and says what she is looking for because she lacks the Sugar Baby’s self-confidence.

Sugar Daddies are Dirty Old Men

I never really understood what people meant by this one since they fail to define what constitutes a Dirty Old Man. Sugar Daddies may be older, sure, but dirty, I don’t think so. This myth is the standard jealousy-based smear campaign initiated by people who would outlaw great sex if they could.

If a guy is north of 50, still has a sex drive and the financial means to attract a hot younger woman, he should get a trophy and The Discovery Channel should do a documentary on how he got so lucky.

Sugar Daddies are generally more polished and sophisticated than they were in their 20’s or 30’s because they’ve got EXPERIENCE. They’re also more appreciative of women than younger guys are.

Sugar Daddy Dating is Degrading to Women

If that’s the case than so is Elle Magazine, Victoria’s Secret models and the stiletto heal shoe.

People can’t be degraded unless they are deprived of the ability to make their own decisions. Sugar Babies do their own thinking, call their own shots and CHOOSE the man they want to tool around town with in the drop top Mercedes.

Degrading is having to work a job you despise in order to pay for basic living expenses or staying in a loveless marriage because you can’t afford to move on with your life.

So have at it Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies, don’t let myths and misconceptions stand in your way of finding the perfect playmate.

Power to the players.

Is the Jackie of All Trades better than the dream team of specialist Sugar Babies? Is it more enjoyable to have one Sugar Baby that can ski the black diamond slopes as well as she can fill out a Brazilian t-back, or to have a virtual arsenal of Sugar Babies, each one equipped with her own special skill set?

Multiple Choice

The answer to that question depends on the Sugar Daddy and of course, the depth of his pocket. For the average man, handling two women is like trying to drive two cars, it sounds great on paper but there is a lot of stopping and starting.

But the Sugar Daddy is anything but average. He is the master of industry, the man who made his first million before he was 30, the very same guy who got his pilot’s license just because the grouper in the Bahamas tastes better than the variety they serve in Miami.

Of course more is better. Or is it?

Lance (not his real name) has been seeing the same Sugar Baby for two years. He’s the out-of-town guy that shows up like Santa Clause when he wants to unwind. The majority of nights with his girl are spent out on the town, not clubbing till 5:00 a.m. but more along the lines of wine bars and Jazz clubs. He likes the stability and the consistency of the relationship.

Did I mention that Lance is also happily married with two children?

“I really don’t want to start talking about right and wrong here,” Lance said candidly. “All I can tell you is what works for me. Having more than one Sugar Baby would be ludicrous. Jasmine (obviously not her real name) is my solace, my getaway and someone I trust to keep our arrangement just between us.”

A lot of Sugar Daddies are like lance. They don’t need to be the king of Sugar Mountain, but they still like the arrangement scene. For the record, Lance’s marriage is rock solid by all practical definition. He has no intention of leaving his wife or leaving Jasmine (still not her real name). He’s a happy man.

Lance has a rather consistent financial arrangement with Sugar Baby. He deposits a specific amount of cash into a checking account every month and that takes care of Jasmine’s rent, phone and essentials. When he comes into town there are nights out, some shopping, but it’s a rather conservative deal.

Which brings us to Cameron. He’s got a lot of time to fill since selling his software company but now he lives his life like he’s the subject of a documentary on living like a rock star. For Cam, the cameras are always rolling.

He’s got a Hatteras that costs more than most people’s homes, has never been married (and seems to be keeping it that way at least for the foreseeable future), and has lots of friends. His only Achilles heel is boredom.

Cam keeps three Sugar Babies in rotation at all times. He’s the perfect delegator. He’s got a travel baby, a club baby and even one he keeps around because she’s a deep water certified scuba diver (really). For a stretch there was even one Sugar Baby in the mix whose sole qualification was that she was a Maxim Girl.

He’s not exactly paying the freight for all three but they all do very well. It’s a pay-as- you-go arrangement as opposed to a defined monthly budget. The girls make out with lots of news clothes, spa days, salon days, flat screen TV’s, bathroom renovations, and anything else you can think of that costs money.

“I’ll admit I am a chronic type A,” Cam Said. “Whether I’m working or playing it’s at full speed. It’s just the way I am.”

As unorthodox as either arrangement may sound, it’s all a matter of perspective. If they were to switch places even for a brief period of time, Cam would be so bored he’d start another software company and Lance’s head would just explode.

So in the end, which arrangement is better? The answer is both and neither. It all depends on the Sugar Daddy and what he’s looking for out of his arrangement (or arrangements).

There’s a first time for everything, but letting on that you’re the rookie never helps. Experienced people, especially wealthy men, only want to associate with other experienced people. Confidence is the key, and a little role playing doesn’t hurt either.

EVERYONE acts and postures, especially in business and social situations. People act like they don’t care when they really do, they act like they’re millionaires when they can’t even pay for lunch, and they act as if they don’t have a problem in the world when they’re really knee-deep in crocodiles.

Know How To Fake It

Fake it until you make it. If you come off like a bumbling geek you run the risk of being the little girl in the school yard with pigtails and braces that no one wants to play with.

Know what people are going to say before they say it and you’ll gain a formidable advantage. Give a little thought to the questions that may come up in conversation with your rich Sugar Daddy at the formative stage of the arrangement.

In any given dynamic, people ask the same five to seven questions at the very most. In your case, there are only one or two questions you need to prepare for so as not to be exposed as a novice. For instance. . .

How long have you been a Sugar Baby?

This is a good one because it’s probably the most commonly asked. Go for something whimsical and don’t take the question too seriously.

“My whole life.”

Great answer! It sets the tone for the relationship and lets Sugar Daddy know you’re serious about being taken care of. Also try the reversal;

“How long have you been a Sugar Daddy?”

This is also a dynamite response because it gets Sugar Daddy talking about himself. Men, above all else, love to talk about themselves.

Possibly he may ask. . .

“Do you do this type of thing often?”

No problem, it’s a variation on the same question. Once again, humor works best.

“Not often enough apparently.”

You just knocked it out of the park. Sugar Daddy is riding high because you just stroked his ego and you came off smoother than Mata Hari. You’re officially running the show.

Another great tactic is to take the initiative and jump in before Sugar Daddy starts asking questions.

“So, do you seduce many women or am I special?”

You may initially think you can’t say this without laughing; it’s a line by every definition of the word. However, with just a little bit of practice it’s a lethal opener. You’re grabbing the high ground and simultaneously giving Sugar Daddy the opportunity to compliment you on how special you really are. It’s a loaded question. You already know where the conversation is going.

Take advantage of every situation to shroud yourself in mystery. Be aloof, create the persona you want to be. You’re embarking on a fresh start with a new benefactor so make the most of the opportunity.

When the Good Ship Sugar Daddy leaves the dock and an enviable arrangement has been established, give yourself a pat on the back for being a consummate professional.

Best of all, you’re only a rookie once and you’ll never be that little girl with pigtails and braces again.

Sugar Daddies generally fall into two categories; those who struck it big early on in their careers and now have an abundance of free time, and those who still work around the clock because they are ambition junkies.

Both varieties are well intentioned chaps, but they still may require a little polishing in order to bring out their true potential. It is the implied responsibility of the Sugar Baby to make sure that the Sugar Daddy looks good, smells good and stays up to date with what’s going on in the real world.

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You are more than just a Sugar Baby. Think of yourself as a Lifestyle Liaison.

Have all of your Sugar Daddy’s measurements on hand at all times.

Know all of his measurements, from neck size to shoe size. It’s up to you to make sure that Sugar Daddy isn’t still wearing wide lapels and/or velour tracksuits. After all, you’ve got to be seen with this guy so he has to look as good as you do. Impromptu purchases usually yield the best results so make it as easy as possible for you to capitalize on spur-of-the moment wardrobe opportunities.

Find out Daddy’s taste in music and then expand on it.

If Sugar Daddy was raised on Sinatra and Tony Bennet, he may not have heard of Michael Amante or Adriano Celentano. Throw in some diversity as well, stuff from your collection, but try to avoid culture shock unless he’s really open minded.

Turning someone on to good music is a hit and miss scenario, so have some fun with it. Even if you turn Sugar Daddy on to something that’s completely out of his depth, it’s still good for a laugh.

If you can’t bring Sugar Daddy to the cinema. . .

Then bring the cinema to your Sugar Daddy. Believe it or not, there are still men out there who have never seen Basic Instinct or Bound, two of the hottest erotic thrillers of all times. Sugar Daddy has been working for a living so he may be a little out of touch with what’s come out of Hollywood over the past fifteen years.

Grab a half dozen or so closet classics that get your juices flowing and have them on hand for a last-minute movie night. If you bring two movies and he’s bored, you’ve hit a brick wall and the evening is a bust. If you bring six and half of them don’t grab his attention, odds are the other half will.

Food sets the mood.

Sugar Daddy is a creature of habit, so it’s up to you to expose him to new culinary options. Many people have never tried Ethiopian, Korean barbecue or even something as prevalent as Indian.

Figure out what Daddy likes (chicken, fish, veggies, etc.) and then be prepared to either grab some very cool take-out or to order off the menu for him. Men love woman who take the lead in social situations.

Men spend more time on their cars than they do on themselves.

Sugar Daddy has most likely been wearing the same cologne for at least the past ten years just for lack of a better option. Fill his bathroom with a few different colognes, mint facial scrub, organic clay masks, the latest shaving oil from Sephora, an ergonomic back brush, and anything else he probably didn’t even know existed.

Being a Sugar Baby comes with some rather unique responsibilities. But the more you put in, the more you get out.

Everyone is a winner.

We spend a great deal of time and energy figuring out new ways to lose weight, relieve stress and stay young, but through this forest of self examination we’ve lost sight of the obvious. People who are happy generally don’t stress about anything, including their weight, and have a tendency to look and feel younger than those who forgot how to be a little wild.

The Sugar Daddy has savoir-faire
His motto: Laissez les bons temps rouler

Being frivolous is more productive than one might think. Show me the guy having the most fun and I’ll show you the guy making the most money. Show me the guy making the most money and I’ll show you the quintessential Sugar Daddy.

The relaxed and charming Sugar Daddy is going to have a much more satisfying life than the stodgy, burned out, chain smoking executive. He’s the fun-loving fringe player who knows the importance of playtime. The Sugar Daddy weaves a special charisma and abundant enthusiasm throughout the entire fabric of his existence.

If you ask him what his secret is, and you’re lucky enough for him to tell you, he’ll probably say something like “it’s just a matter of being able to let go at will.” The Sugar Daddy knows this life lesson well, and lives by the credo of “let the good times roll.”

People, especially Sugar Babies, are attracted to the Sugar Daddy because his self-assured manner is contagious. He’s the guy with a million great stories, the man everyone wants to know or be, and the guy you can never quite figure out no matter how long you’ve known him. He’s the enigma, the “Go-To-Guy” when the seas get rough, and the man who never forgets the importance of having fun.

He’s successful because he is not driven by success. He is instead motivated by the many exciting and enjoyable things that success brings.

If the Sugar Daddy is not living on the edge he’s just not living. In the same fashion that David Carradine walked the earth in Kung Fu, the greatest television show ever made, the Sugar Daddy walks the earth as well, reaching out to the next Sugar Baby, hoping that his next leap will be the one that brings him home (sorry, that’s actually Quantum Leap).

There isn’t a movie he hasn’t seen, a book he hasn’t read or an idea you’re having that he hasn’t already had. When everyone else at the bar is talking about writing a screenplay, starting a new company, or going spear fishing in the Bahamas, he’s actually doing it.

The Sugar Daddy is a risk taker, but he’s not reckless. He’s a gym enthusiast, but he still respects a good cigar. When others are seeking knowledge he is gathering wisdom.

The Sugar Daddy’s final frontier of self-expression and personal satisfaction hinges on his ability to attract the adoration and unbridled affection of the Sugar Baby. He wants to share his wealth, experience and philosophy with an affectionate and receptive female vessel.

The Sugar Baby’s incompleteness is what makes the Sugar Daddy complete.

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From an engineering standpoint, a love triangle should be a stable structure. After all, the great pyramids of Egypt are a triangle and they’ve stood for more than 4,000 years. Then again, the pyramids aren’t constructed of a husband with a rogue libido, an exceptionally young coworker, and an irate wife.

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Statistically, a man of means is more apt to engage in a sexual dalliance than Joe Lunch Box. Don’t get me wrong, Joe Lunch Box may still duck into a strip club on boy’s night out, but the reasons that the nine-to-five guy is less likely to stray is simple; he has less expendable cash and he’s just too damn tired.

For the sake of fairness we have to state that not all men in power cheat on their spouses. It’s just that the serial monogamists don’t generate the same amount of press as David Lettermen and Kobe Bryant.

Wealth Seeks Beauty is not endorsing marital infidelity nor are we here to offer a “how to” manual on getting some on the side. But people (men and woman alike) are biologically wired to crave sex. Literature has chronicled the trials and tribulations of this particular human trait for thousands of years.

In Homer’s Odyssey, Odysseus knew the lethal peril of the Sirens’ song. He knew for an indisputable FACT that NO MAN could resist their intoxicating melody. Odysseus realized that if he did nothing his crew would most likely meet their demise by leaping into the sea and that his ship would be destroyed by being run onto the rocks upon being lured by the call of the Sirens.

The Internet hadn’t caught on yet in 800 B.C. so Odysseus, the keen strategist, did the best he could with what he had. He instructed his crew to plug their ears with wax before they passed near the island of the Sirens but here comes the kicker. Even knowing the lethality of the Sirens’ song, HE STILL WANTED TO HEAR IT. Odysseus instructed his crew to lash him to the mast of the ship and not to cut him loose until he stopped begging and pleading, until the Sirens’ island was way far in the rear view mirror.

This scenario says it all. Odysseus knew for a fact that all those who came before him DIED from hearing the Sirens; not a few, or most, ALL of them were destroyed. Odysseus still decided it was probably OK for him to give it a go.

If Odysseus actually existed and were alive today, he would have been a kick-ass Sugar Daddy. Being a man’s man he probably would have hooked up his crew as well. He would have painted “WealthSeeksBeauty.com” on the side of his boat and spread the Sugar Daddy philosophy as he fought the Cyclops and took on all comers during his adventures.

Getting back to modern times.

Kobe, A-Rod, Peter Cook (Christie Brinkley’s ex hubby), and Michael Jordan could have avoided the tidal waves of emotional and financial devastation they created by just being realistic about their human foibles. Like Odysseus, they knew that those who came before them were raked over the coals for such behavior, but they spun the wheel anyway.

Sugar Daddy relationships are the single most effective societal safety valve we have today. A little Sugar alleviates the pressure of rogue desire before it builds up and takes out a city block when it explodes.
Think about it; the Sugar Daddy lifestyle is far more prevalent in Europe than in the U.S. Consequently, the overwhelming majority of sex scandals that rock the evening news are home grown.

When a well-intentioned Sugar Daddy establishes an arrangement with a young, beautiful and DISCREET Sugar Baby, families are spared embarrassment, corporations and fortunes remain intact, and the media is left with nothing to report on.

An ounce of Sugar is worth a pound of attorneys.

Not much has changed since the days when the first caveman dragged a saber tooth tiger pelt back to the lair to attract the favors of Wilma Flintstone. This simple exchange of essentials for affection set the pace for the next ten thousand years; except that now a diamond tennis bracelet gets a man further than a greasy animal hide.

Regardless of whether the Alpha Dog comes bearing animal skins or diamonds, odds are that he is not going to bed alone any time soon. This is why no one ever talks about the Beta Dog.

Jurassic Park Dating

So why fight ten millennium of biological programming?

Woman are beautiful and amazingly complex individuals, but if given the choice of dating a man with good intentions and dating a man with good intentions and $5,000,000 in the bank, they’re going with the smart-money bet.

Women have one distinct ability that men do not, the ability to create life. Hence, they are more intuitive and even if they don’t have baby-on-the-brain, they are still thinking about the future while men are thinking about the here and now.

Women, regardless of their socioeconomic status, are simply not attracted to slackers. Recent university studies have even concluded that a woman’s degree of sexual satisfaction is directly linked to her partner’s level of financial success. Apparently size does matter.

Which brings us to men.

Men, for the most part, are raised in a football society. They are hard-wired to gain ground at all costs, push through barriers, and believe that the ultimate satisfaction is to be hoisted victoriously upon the shoulders of their peers and showered by the cheers and adulation of the roaring crowd. Even the most mild-mannered intellectual has this message screaming at him incessantly from the base of his brain.

Caveman thinking is what builds skyscrapers, put a man on the moon, and gave us cell phones with Internet access. If that first caveman didn’t risk his life to kill the saber tooth tiger to win over the sought-after cave Hottie, Sugar Daddy dating wouldn’t be the rage that it is today.

The art of the arrangement GUARANTEES that everyone comes away a winner. It’s the perfect storm of negotiated romance; the men with the most get the women with the most to offer. Now, because of the Internet, everyone gets to play.

The best aspect of Caveman Selection is that it only grows stronger as people mature. People don’t mellow with age; they become more focused on what they want. Women become more conscious about their financial needs, men grow more confident from accumulating life experience and everyone is a LOT more direct about sex; their need for it, the quality of it and the frequency they get it.

This is not to say that we’re all just a bunch of horny cave people. Men and women also have intangible intellectual and emotional needs that must be satisfied in order to be truly happy. We all walk a fine line between caveman and Renaissance man.

But when push comes to shove, the caveman bearing gifts is going to win out over the empty handed Neanderthal.