Not much has changed since the days when the first caveman dragged a saber tooth tiger pelt back to the lair to attract the favors of Wilma Flintstone. This simple exchange of essentials for affection set the pace for the next ten thousand years; except that now a diamond tennis bracelet gets a man further than a greasy animal hide.
Regardless of whether the Alpha Dog comes bearing animal skins or diamonds, odds are that he is not going to bed alone any time soon. This is why no one ever talks about the Beta Dog.
Jurassic Park Dating
So why fight ten millennium of biological programming?
Woman are beautiful and amazingly complex individuals, but if given the choice of dating a man with good intentions and dating a man with good intentions and $5,000,000 in the bank, they’re going with the smart-money bet.
Women have one distinct ability that men do not, the ability to create life. Hence, they are more intuitive and even if they don’t have baby-on-the-brain, they are still thinking about the future while men are thinking about the here and now.
Women, regardless of their socioeconomic status, are simply not attracted to slackers. Recent university studies have even concluded that a woman’s degree of sexual satisfaction is directly linked to her partner’s level of financial success. Apparently size does matter.
Which brings us to men.
Men, for the most part, are raised in a football society. They are hard-wired to gain ground at all costs, push through barriers, and believe that the ultimate satisfaction is to be hoisted victoriously upon the shoulders of their peers and showered by the cheers and adulation of the roaring crowd. Even the most mild-mannered intellectual has this message screaming at him incessantly from the base of his brain.
Caveman thinking is what builds skyscrapers, put a man on the moon, and gave us cell phones with Internet access. If that first caveman didn’t risk his life to kill the saber tooth tiger to win over the sought-after cave Hottie, Sugar Daddy dating wouldn’t be the rage that it is today.
The art of the arrangement GUARANTEES that everyone comes away a winner. It’s the perfect storm of negotiated romance; the men with the most get the women with the most to offer. Now, because of the Internet, everyone gets to play.
The best aspect of Caveman Selection is that it only grows stronger as people mature. People don’t mellow with age; they become more focused on what they want. Women become more conscious about their financial needs, men grow more confident from accumulating life experience and everyone is a LOT more direct about sex; their need for it, the quality of it and the frequency they get it.
This is not to say that we’re all just a bunch of horny cave people. Men and women also have intangible intellectual and emotional needs that must be satisfied in order to be truly happy. We all walk a fine line between caveman and Renaissance man.
But when push comes to shove, the caveman bearing gifts is going to win out over the empty handed Neanderthal.