During tough economic times like these, it is becoming more and more impossible to decipher whether or not Sugar Daddy’s excuses are legitimate. What was once nothing more than a casual concern has escalated into one of the hottest topics up for debate between Sugar Daddies and their perplexed Sugar Babies worldwide.

Of course a little jealousy is normal (and healthy), but how do you know if he is truly busy? Being beautiful is hard enough without having to worry about what he’s up to, and obviously the last thing you’d want is to lose him to another Sugar Baby, who quite frankly may be hotter or more entertaining than you! So how do you know if his excuses are legit?

Every successful Sugar Daddy has to put in the time to make the money. If you doubt his excuse for not being able to see you then do some research (and I’m not talking about the kind where you make harassing phone calls or unannounced visits to his office). During dinner, casually ask him what he’s working on, appear interested and try to find out what has his attention at the office.

Hopefully it won’t be that busty blonde that sits at the front desk! The truth is, you may never know what someone else is up to, but if you feel his excuses start to overlap or if they just seem a bit shoddy, you’ve got to investigate.

Sitting home worrying about losing your Sugar Daddy is never a good thing. You’ve got to remind him why he chose you as his Sugar Baby, and why you never want him to stop being your Sugar Daddy. If during your research you discover that he is lagging because he does in fact have other Sugar Babies it may be time to re-evaluate the arrangement.

But remember, most of all, there are plenty of other Sugar Daddies out there waiting to spoil you!

Not so long ago if the Dave Mathews Band stopped off for pizza at Ray’s Original in Manhattan the story would have made Page Six before the mozzarella got cold. Now, if the same bunch of guys cured cancer and baldness in the same day we’d never even hear about it.

At the opposite end of the spectrum, if a pancake waitress from Indiana turns out to be some no-name politician’s Sugar Baby, she’s got camera crews surrounding her apartment within minutes and we get to watch the whole story unfold via live feed on Fox News.

The people have spoken.

Men and women alike are OBSESSED with Sugar Babies. We want to know who they are, where they go, what they do and who they do it with. It was only a few short years ago that this type of societal fixation was reserved for people like Bono, Madonna and Kid Rock.

These days who you sleep with will make you famous. Just ask Rachel Uchitel, Jaime Grubbs, Kalika Moquin, Mindy Lawton, Cori Rist, Jamie Jungers, Holly Sampson, and Joslyn James. These women were catapulted to international stardom by being the woman on the side for a golfer – a golfer for Pete’s sake. Back in the good old days (the 1990’s) at least you had to be getting it on with the President’s generate this kind of attention.

Sugar Babies are like TiVo; we just can’t live without them. Even for guys who will never dive into Sugar Daddydom, or women will never become Sugar Babies, they still want to watch and soak in every last steamy detail. Sugar Baby mania is here to stay, and it’s only gaining momentum.

Sugar Babies are our new Rock Stars; we can experience their exploits without waking up with a hangover; we live vicariously through them without having to stay out late, and they satisfy our primal need for drama and excitement without taking up too much of our time. Our Sugar Baby obsession is rich, juicy, delicious and convenient. We can do it from the privacy of our I-Phones or laptops while sipping lattes at Starbucks.

Whether they realize it or not, Sugar Babies turn perfectly normal people into delirious voyeurs. Our attraction to Sugar Babies is undeniable and irresistible. Sugar Babies are beautiful, exciting, and they live the lives that we all want to lead whether we admit it or not.

So what keeps the average woman from taking the plunge and trying out Sugar Daddy dating for the first time? It’s probably the same thing that holds people back from skydiving, opening their own business or getting that tattoo they always wanted; fear of the unknown. Fear is an OK thing, as long as you don’t let it do your thinking for you.

We at WealthSeeksBeauty.com feel compelled to offer one piece of advice to the girl next door, the soccer mom, the unappreciated office temp or the paralegal who has yet to realize her own potential; just stick your toe in the water, you might actually like it.

You don’t have to make a lifelong commitment (just the opposite actually) or go to Sugar Baby school for two years to get a degree. The opportunity to live like a Rock Star is right here, right now. There has never been a better time in the history of the world to be a Sugar Baby than this very moment, and the best is yet to come.

There are three kinds of people in the world; those who live like Rock Stars, those who want to live like Rock Stars, and those who live in denial.

Myths, urban legends and politics all make for great talk at cocktails parties. Just don’t take any of them too seriously.

Sugar Daddy dating has put more women through college than the GI Bill, it’s given retired businessmen a reason to keep going to the gym, and it’s one of the few sectors of the economy that seems to be recession-proof.

But like any great concept there are bound to be naysayers. Some people just don’t get it and instead of keeping an open mind they find it more satisfying to perpetuate negative stereotypes and misinformation.

These are the same people that told us if you threw a penny off of the Empire State Building it would kill someone and that if the woman stayed on top during sex she couldn’t get pregnant.

Here are a few myths and misunderstandings about Sugar Daddy dating that need to be addressed.

Sugar Daddy Dating is Just Veiled Prostitution

This is one is my favorites because it’s the craziest. Comparing the two is like claiming that watching porn is committing adultery.

Sugar Daddy dating is just that, a form of dating. Whether it’s referred to as an arrangement or an affair, Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies are doing a lot more together than just having sex. Sure there is sex, a lot of it, but there is just as much partying, hanging out, shopping and traveling.

Last time I checked men didn’t take prostitutes on vacation to Aspen, they didn’t make their car payments for them and they certainly didn’t show them off to their friends.

Sugar Babies Are Gold Diggers and Opportunists

This myth was created by actual gold diggers and opportunists. Sugar Babies are generally young women with a strong sense of self-worth who like to party. Unlike their deceptive counterparts, Saccharin Babies, Sugar Babies put their cards on the table when they meet a Sugar Daddy and spell out exactly what they need in order to make the arrangement work.

Inversely, the Saccharin Baby will hide her intentions and string a guy along with a lot of empty promises. She never comes out and says what she is looking for because she lacks the Sugar Baby’s self-confidence.

Sugar Daddies are Dirty Old Men

I never really understood what people meant by this one since they fail to define what constitutes a Dirty Old Man. Sugar Daddies may be older, sure, but dirty, I don’t think so. This myth is the standard jealousy-based smear campaign initiated by people who would outlaw great sex if they could.

If a guy is north of 50, still has a sex drive and the financial means to attract a hot younger woman, he should get a trophy and The Discovery Channel should do a documentary on how he got so lucky.

Sugar Daddies are generally more polished and sophisticated than they were in their 20’s or 30’s because they’ve got EXPERIENCE. They’re also more appreciative of women than younger guys are.

Sugar Daddy Dating is Degrading to Women

If that’s the case than so is Elle Magazine, Victoria’s Secret models and the stiletto heal shoe.

People can’t be degraded unless they are deprived of the ability to make their own decisions. Sugar Babies do their own thinking, call their own shots and CHOOSE the man they want to tool around town with in the drop top Mercedes.

Degrading is having to work a job you despise in order to pay for basic living expenses or staying in a loveless marriage because you can’t afford to move on with your life.

So have at it Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies, don’t let myths and misconceptions stand in your way of finding the perfect playmate.

Power to the players.

There’s a new joke going around. It goes something like, “Tiger Woods hit a tree with his car and a bunch of women fell out.”

Sounds cute, but now the poor guy is knee deep is allegations of infidelity with about a dozen Sugar Babies, there’s talk of hush money that he doled out by the wheelbarrow and even speculation that he’s paying his wife Elin Nordegren $5,000,000 just to stay with him. How can this story get any worse? Well it can.

Mindy Lawton, a busty Florida brunette and one of Tiger’s Sugar Babies is quoted as saying that “Sometimes I looked like a rag doll after we’d made love.” She also divulged that Tiger was “well-endowed” and into marathon S&M romps.

As if that weren’t bad enough, she went on to say that “He really did like it rough. He wanted to spank me and loved pulling my hair as we had sex,” she told the News of the World. “He also liked me to talk dirty to him, but hair-pulling was what really turned him on.”

These are details that we can all live without, but that’s not the point. Lawton broke the Sugar Baby code of silence and by betraying her beloved Tiger she betrayed every Sugar Daddy, past, present or future. She also betrayed Sugar Babies as a collective, leaving the world to believe that any Sugar Baby will spill the beans on her Sugar Daddy if the price is right.

How do we move on from here? One step at a time people, one step at a time.

Most Sugar Daddies are not Tiger Woods, and consequently are not nearly as susceptible to exploitation by the media. Secondly, Tiger has to eat a little of the blame here. It sounds like he may have promised his Sugar Babies a little more than he could deliver.

More than one of Tiger’s Sugar Babies was convinced she was going to be the next Mrs. Woods. Whether he really lead them on or not is difficult to say. But even if he did make some shaky promises in the heat of the moment, that still doesn’t give any Sugar Baby the right to break her vow of silence.

When a Sugar Daddy affiliates with a Sugar Baby he has the same expectation of confidentiality as when he deals with his an attorney, psychiatrist or barber. What goes on in Sugar Daddy land, stays there, or at least it’s supposed to. However, with the aforementioned debacle in mind, it’s important to make sure your Sugar Baby truly understands the code of silence she is supposed to maintain, whether you two are together or not.

Sugar Daddy Soundproofing

The term “gag order” is a little harsh, so we’re going to refer to Sugar Daddy confidentiality as “soundproofing.” The best time to start process this is at the beginning of the arrangement. Get started on the right foot so you don’t have to change direction after things are rolling. Be prepared to ask the tough questions.

For instance, “Honey, if you found out I was dating a dozen or so other Sugar Babies, would you go to the press or release a YouTube video about our sex life?”

Sure, there’s maybe a few different ways to couch this question but it does get the point across. You can tell by Sugar Baby’s answer if she’s going to hold up under interrogation at a later date. If she can’t give you a straight answer or you see that her pupils have dilated (nature’s way of telling you you’re in danger) it may be time to find a more discreet Sugar Baby.

Sugar Baby’s response to this question should be rather unemotional, borderlining on tepid. She has to be able to look you dead in the eye without even the slightest hesitation, and assure you that whatever transpires between the two of you, no matter how twisted, she is willing to take it to the grave.

People are people, and when feelings get hurt everyone has the impulse to lash out. The question is whether or not we act on that fleeting impulse.

In closing, confidentiality is a double edged sword, it cuts both ways. However, rest assured that the Sugar Baby code of silence is not dead; it’s just a little bruised.

Is the Jackie of All Trades better than the dream team of specialist Sugar Babies? Is it more enjoyable to have one Sugar Baby that can ski the black diamond slopes as well as she can fill out a Brazilian t-back, or to have a virtual arsenal of Sugar Babies, each one equipped with her own special skill set?

The answer to that question depends on the Sugar Daddy and of course, the depth of his pocket. For the average man, handling two women is like trying to drive two cars, it sounds great on paper but there is a lot of stopping and starting.

But the Sugar Daddy is anything but average. He is the master of industry, the man who made his first million before he was 30, the very same guy who got his pilot’s license just because the grouper in the Bahamas tastes better than the variety they serve in Miami.

Of course more is better. Or is it?

Lance (not his real name) has been seeing the same Sugar Baby for two years. He’s the out-of-town guy that shows up like Santa Clause when he wants to unwind. The majority of nights with his girl are spent out on the town, not clubbing till 5:00 a.m. but more along the lines of wine bars and Jazz clubs. He likes the stability and the consistency of the relationship.

Did I mention that Lance is also happily married with two children?

“I really don’t want to start talking about right and wrong here,” Lance said candidly. “All I can tell you is what works for me. Having more than one Sugar Baby would be ludicrous. Jasmine (obviously not her real name) is my solace, my getaway and someone I trust to keep our arrangement just between us.”

A lot of Sugar Daddies are like lance. They don’t need to be the king of Sugar Mountain, but they still like the arrangement scene. For the record, Lance’s marriage is rock solid by all practical definition. He has no intention of leaving his wife or leaving Jasmine (still not her real name). He’s a happy man.

Lance has a rather consistent financial arrangement with Sugar Baby. He deposits a specific amount of cash into a checking account every month and that takes care of Jasmine’s rent, phone and essentials. When he comes into town there are nights out, some shopping, but it’s a rather conservative deal.

Which brings us to Cameron. He’s got a lot of time to fill since selling his software company but now he lives his life like he’s the subject of a documentary on living like a rock star. For Cam, the cameras are always rolling.

He’s got a Hatteras that costs more than most people’s homes, has never been married (and seems to be keeping it that way at least for the foreseeable future), and has lots of friends. His only Achilles heel is boredom.

Cam keeps three Sugar Babies in rotation at all times. He’s the perfect delegator. He’s got a travel baby, a club baby and even one he keeps around because she’s a deep water certified scuba diver (really). For a stretch there was even one Sugar Baby in the mix whose sole qualification was that she was a Maxim Girl.

He’s not exactly paying the freight for all three but they all do very well. It’s a pay-as- you-go arrangement as opposed to a defined monthly budget. The girls make out with lots of news clothes, spa days, salon days, flat screen TV’s, bathroom renovations, and anything else you can think of that costs money.

“I’ll admit I am a chronic type A,” Cam Said. “Whether I’m working or playing it’s at full speed. It’s just the way I am.”

As unorthodox as either arrangement may sound, it’s all a matter of perspective. If they were to switch places even for a brief period of time, Cam would be so bored he’d start another software company and Lance’s head would just explode.

So in the end, which arrangement is better? The answer is both and neither. It all depends on the Sugar Daddy and what he’s looking for out of his arrangement (or arrangements).

Sugar Daddies generally fall into two categories; those who struck it big early on in their careers and now have an abundance of free time, and those who still work around the clock because they are ambition junkies.

Both varieties are well intentioned chaps, but they still may require a little polishing in order to bring out their true potential. It is the implied responsibility of the Sugar Baby to make sure that the Sugar Daddy looks good, smells good and stays up to date with what’s going on in the real world.

You are more than just a Sugar Baby. Think of yourself as a Lifestyle Liaison.

Have all of your Sugar Daddy’s measurements on hand at all times.

Know all of his measurements, from neck size to shoe size. It’s up to you to make sure that Sugar Daddy isn’t still wearing wide lapels and/or velour tracksuits. After all, you’ve got to be seen with this guy so he has to look as good as you do. Impromptu purchases usually yield the best results so make it as easy as possible for you to capitalize on spur-of-the moment wardrobe opportunities.

Find out Daddy’s taste in music and then expand on it.

If Sugar Daddy was raised on Sinatra and Tony Bennet, he may not have heard of Michael Amante or Adriano Celentano. Throw in some diversity as well, stuff from your collection, but try to avoid culture shock unless he’s really open minded.

Turning someone on to good music is a hit and miss scenario, so have some fun with it. Even if you turn Sugar Daddy on to something that’s completely out of his depth, it’s still good for a laugh.

If you can’t bring Sugar Daddy to the cinema. . .

Then bring the cinema to your Sugar Daddy. Believe it or not, there are still men out there who have never seen Basic Instinct or Bound, two of the hottest erotic thrillers of all times. Sugar Daddy has been working for a living so he may be a little out of touch with what’s come out of Hollywood over the past fifteen years.

Grab a half dozen or so closet classics that get your juices flowing and have them on hand for a last-minute movie night. If you bring two movies and he’s bored, you’ve hit a brick wall and the evening is a bust. If you bring six and half of them don’t grab his attention, odds are the other half will.

Food sets the mood.

Sugar Daddy is a creature of habit, so it’s up to you to expose him to new culinary options. Many people have never tried Ethiopian, Korean barbecue or even something as prevalent as Indian.

Figure out what Daddy likes (chicken, fish, veggies, etc.) and then be prepared to either grab some very cool take-out or to order off the menu for him. Men love woman who take the lead in social situations.

Men spend more time on their cars than they do on themselves.

Sugar Daddy has most likely been wearing the same cologne for at least the past ten years just for lack of a better option. Fill his bathroom with a few different colognes, mint facial scrub, organic clay masks, the latest shaving oil from Sephora, an ergonomic back brush, and anything else he probably didn’t even know existed.

Being a Sugar Baby comes with some rather unique responsibilities. But the more you put in, the more you get out.

Everyone is a winner.

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From an engineering standpoint, a love triangle should be a stable structure. After all, the great pyramids of Egypt are a triangle and they’ve stood for more than 4,000 years. Then again, the pyramids aren’t constructed of a husband with a rogue libido, an exceptionally young coworker, and an irate wife.

Statistically, a man of means is more apt to engage in a sexual dalliance than Joe Lunch Box. Don’t get me wrong, Joe Lunch Box may still duck into a strip club on boy’s night out, but the reasons that the nine-to-five guy is less likely to stray is simple; he has less expendable cash and he’s just too damn tired.

For the sake of fairness we have to state that not all men in power cheat on their spouses. It’s just that the serial monogamists don’t generate the same amount of press as David Lettermen and Kobe Bryant.

Wealth Seeks Beauty is not endorsing marital infidelity nor are we here to offer a “how to” manual on getting some on the side. But people (men and woman alike) are biologically wired to crave sex. Literature has chronicled the trials and tribulations of this particular human trait for thousands of years.

In Homer’s Odyssey, Odysseus knew the lethal peril of the Sirens’ song. He knew for an indisputable FACT that NO MAN could resist their intoxicating melody. Odysseus realized that if he did nothing his crew would most likely meet their demise by leaping into the sea and that his ship would be destroyed by being run onto the rocks upon being lured by the call of the Sirens.

The Internet hadn’t caught on yet in 800 B.C. so Odysseus, the keen strategist, did the best he could with what he had. He instructed his crew to plug their ears with wax before they passed near the island of the Sirens but here comes the kicker. Even knowing the lethality of the Sirens’ song, HE STILL WANTED TO HEAR IT. Odysseus instructed his crew to lash him to the mast of the ship and not to cut him loose until he stopped begging and pleading, until the Sirens’ island was way far in the rear view mirror.

This scenario says it all. Odysseus knew for a fact that all those who came before him DIED from hearing the Sirens; not a few, or most, ALL of them were destroyed. Odysseus still decided it was probably OK for him to give it a go.

If Odysseus actually existed and were alive today, he would have been a kick-ass Sugar Daddy. Being a man’s man he probably would have hooked up his crew as well. He would have painted “WealthSeeksBeauty.com” on the side of his boat and spread the Sugar Daddy philosophy as he fought the Cyclops and took on all comers during his adventures.

Getting back to modern times.

Kobe, A-Rod, Peter Cook (Christie Brinkley’s ex hubby), and Michael Jordan could have avoided the tidal waves of emotional and financial devastation they created by just being realistic about their human foibles. Like Odysseus, they knew that those who came before them were raked over the coals for such behavior, but they spun the wheel anyway.

Sugar Daddy relationships are the single most effective societal safety valve we have today. A little Sugar alleviates the pressure of rogue desire before it builds up and takes out a city block when it explodes.
Think about it; the Sugar Daddy lifestyle is far more prevalent in Europe than in the U.S. Consequently, the overwhelming majority of sex scandals that rock the evening news are home grown.

When a well-intentioned Sugar Daddy establishes an arrangement with a young, beautiful and DISCREET Sugar Baby, families are spared embarrassment, corporations and fortunes remain intact, and the media is left with nothing to report on.

An ounce of Sugar is worth a pound of attorneys.

Not much has changed since the days when the first caveman dragged a saber tooth tiger pelt back to the lair to attract the favors of Wilma Flintstone. This simple exchange of essentials for affection set the pace for the next ten thousand years; except that now a diamond tennis bracelet gets a man further than a greasy animal hide.

Regardless of whether the Alpha Dog comes bearing animal skins or diamonds, odds are that he is not going to bed alone any time soon. This is why no one ever talks about the Beta Dog.

So why fight ten millennium of biological programming?

Woman are beautiful and amazingly complex individuals, but if given the choice of dating a man with good intentions and dating a man with good intentions and $5,000,000 in the bank, they’re going with the smart-money bet.

Women have one distinct ability that men do not, the ability to create life. Hence, they are more intuitive and even if they don’t have baby-on-the-brain, they are still thinking about the future while men are thinking about the here and now.

Women, regardless of their socioeconomic status, are simply not attracted to slackers. Recent university studies have even concluded that a woman’s degree of sexual satisfaction is directly linked to her partner’s level of financial success. Apparently size does matter.

Which brings us to men.

Men, for the most part, are raised in a football society. They are hard-wired to gain ground at all costs, push through barriers, and believe that the ultimate satisfaction is to be hoisted victoriously upon the shoulders of their peers and showered by the cheers and adulation of the roaring crowd. Even the most mild-mannered intellectual has this message screaming at him incessantly from the base of his brain.

Caveman thinking is what builds skyscrapers, put a man on the moon, and gave us cell phones with Internet access. If that first caveman didn’t risk his life to kill the saber tooth tiger to win over the sought-after cave Hottie, Sugar Daddy dating wouldn’t be the rage that it is today.

The art of the arrangement GUARANTEES that everyone comes away a winner. It’s the perfect storm of negotiated romance; the men with the most get the women with the most to offer. Now, because of the Internet, everyone gets to play.

The best aspect of Caveman Selection is that it only grows stronger as people mature. People don’t mellow with age; they become more focused on what they want. Women become more conscious about their financial needs, men grow more confident from accumulating life experience and everyone is a LOT more direct about sex; their need for it, the quality of it and the frequency they get it.

This is not to say that we’re all just a bunch of horny cave people. Men and women also have intangible intellectual and emotional needs that must be satisfied in order to be truly happy. We all walk a fine line between caveman and Renaissance man.

But when push comes to shove, the caveman bearing gifts is going to win out over the empty handed Neanderthal.